Einstein, Rest in Peace

    Rest in Peace, EinsteinTell those you love, you love them. Show those you love, you love them.

    The only certainty from the instant of conception is death. Yet death can still be sad, even when the deceased is four-legged.

    While showering last night Einstein (as usual) sat on the bath’s ledge. Upon arising from a short nap I found him curled up next to a bookcase. He was peaceful. He was warm. He was dead.

    A caring friend comforted me by opining he’d had a heart attack. No pain. No anguish. Simply here one moment and gone the next.

    I’d had no intention of acquiring a cat. Yet after one of those weeks, I did. Then, very quickly, Einstein was an integral part of my life. His short tenure brought incredible joy. He was a very loving cat. An on-your-chest and in-your-face cat.  Now he’s gone.

    Too often it seems we require death’s reminder our tenure here is not permanent. The reminder love is exponential. Love grows by sharing. That it is the wise who actively honor those they love, both in word and deed. Please take the time to tell (and show) those you love how you feel.

    To my darling daughter I say — as I have every day since your birth — I love you more today than yesterday.

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    Josanne - November 13, 2013 - 1:04 am

    I am so sorry to hear this news Tana :(
    My own dear little dog Oscar died very suddenly too, 4 years ago. From what we believe was a heart attack….right there in front of me, aged 14 and me 7 months pregnant. I was distraught. Our little furry friends are so much an integral part of our family.
    I hope you find comfort in your fond memories.
    x

    Patti Hall - November 13, 2013 - 2:32 am

    I am so sorry for your loss, Tana. You gave Einstein a happy home and lots of love, things that many cats and dogs never have.
    Warm Hugs, my friend,
    Patti

    Lori Jo Vest - November 13, 2013 - 3:45 am

    So sorry to hear about your kitty pal, Tana. They truly are family members, aren’t they? My heart goes out to you in your pain. Thank you so much for turning the experience into such a lovely message for the rest of us. xo

    janet bush - November 13, 2013 - 8:04 am

    So sorry to hear of Einstein’s sudden and too soon for you passing. I hope you can find some comfort that he did pass the way all beings who have lived a long life should–peacefully in his sleep. You were so good to him giving him a loving happy home in his twilight of life. Thank you for the reminder that every day we have with those we love is a treasure.

    Shelley Sackier - November 13, 2013 - 8:19 am

    Oh, Tana, I’m sorry. Goodbye is oftentimes the word that stays lodged in our throats for those we’re not ready to let go of. I wish you peace with this parting. And I’m sending you an internet hug full of warmth. I’m thinking of you.
    Stay well, friend.

    Laura Lee Carter aka the Midlife Crisis Queen - November 13, 2013 - 12:32 pm

    Life and death, what a tough one. I enjoy this quote from Anna Quindlen on the topic:
    “Think of life as a terminal illness, because, if you do, you will live it with joy and passion, as it ought to be lived.”

    Tana - November 13, 2013 - 4:11 pm

    Oh Tana, I am so very sorry for your loss. One of the biggest soapboxes I ever stepped up to was when a man asked me why I was crying so hard after I had to put my cat Figaro of 18 years down. He told me to get a grip, it was just a cat. Just a cat? Oh, I don’t think so. He was my family. He was there when many weren’t. He loved me when many didn’t. He gave me unconditional love and about a million laughs along the way. He was the warm breath in my bed when there was no one else. Not just a cat. FAMILY. Blessings to you, my friend, as you have discovered the miracle of cat ownership and the heartache that comes with it. We always think that we save these animals. I wonder. Who saves who?

    Heewon Azad - November 13, 2013 - 5:36 pm

    I am sorry for your loss.

    It is hard to say good bye and let it go.

    Hope you remember many good times with Einstein.

    Kitt Crescendo - November 13, 2013 - 8:17 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss.

    Tana Bevan - November 14, 2013 - 8:46 am

    Thank you Josanne. It was only a few years ago I began to understand how a person could 1) become attached to their animals and 2) mourn their loss. Thank you for your kind words. I am glad you had the birth of your child to help you overcome the loss of your Oscar.

    Tana Bevan - November 14, 2013 - 8:49 am

    That my friend opined Einstein died quickly and of a heart attack gave me comfort. I also take comfort in the fact that during his short tenure in my life (about nine months), it appeared he was content. Thank you for your warm wishes Patti.

    Tana Bevan - November 14, 2013 - 8:52 am

    If there was a way I could apologize to those from the past to whom I “poo-poo’d” their sorrow over the loss of an animal, I would. Alas I cannot not. However, in the past few years I’ve come to understand how a person can become attached to an animal, and with that attachment comes sorrow when the animal dies. Thank you for your kind and caring words Lori.

    Tana Bevan - November 14, 2013 - 8:55 am

    Obviously I never saw this coming. One moment Einstein was sitting on the tub ledge waiting for me to finish showering so he could jump in the tub to lick up the water, the next he was dead. While our time together was but a short nine-months, I am glad we had it. Thank you for your kind words Janet. (And particularly for telling me he had a loving home with me. *smiles*)

    Tana Bevan - November 14, 2013 - 9:01 am

    Thank you Shelley for your kind thoughts. My daughter’s cat died a couple years ago at age 13. He’d been ill, declined, and it was painful to watch. Einstein died quickly. While I was saddened by both deaths, it is easier knowing there wasn’t long-drawn-out suffering or deterioration before Einstein’s demise. I am sad he is gone. I am glad for his sake (and mine), that he went quickly and peacefully.

    Tana Bevan - November 14, 2013 - 9:03 am

    Love the quote Laura Lee. Thank you. A life worth living is definitely lived with joy and passion. And when that life is over, those who remain behind can then find joy in celebrating the deceased’s passionate and joyful life. Sounds wonderful!

    Tana Bevan - November 14, 2013 - 1:52 pm

    While I try to uphold humans to a higher standard than animals, there are times when it is very difficult. Ostensibly, animals are able to love unconditionally, which is not something that seems to come naturally for many (most?) people. I find with the loss of my daughter’s cat a couple years ago, and now Einstein’s demise, I am far more empathetic to those who mourn the loss of their pets. Always wonderful hearing from such a witty woman writer as yourself. (One who is wise as well.) Thanks for stopping by Tammy.

    Tana Bevan - November 14, 2013 - 1:56 pm

    Thank you Heewon. As one who is not a natural animal person, it has been interesting watching my attachment to felines grow over time. The result of the attachment is mourning the loss when the animal dies. (In my case cats.) As the pundits keep reminding us, such is life.

    Tana Bevan - November 14, 2013 - 1:56 pm

    Thank you.

    Catherine Gacad - November 17, 2013 - 11:23 am

    yes, we need to appreciate people while they are around. einstein is the cutest name for a pet. i’m sorry for your loss.

    Tana Bevan - November 17, 2013 - 12:43 pm

    So true Catherine. It’s too easy to think there’s always more time. But that’s not so. I showered Einstein was alive and happy. I woke up from a nap a short time later and he was dead. Einstein was a good name for the cat, I agree. Enjoy telling those you love how you feel. *smiles*

    Star Hunter - November 17, 2013 - 1:13 pm

    Ohhhh noooo. I am so sorry for your loss. I think you hit it on the head ~ sometimes we must be reminded that life is precious, and that reminder can be very hard on us.

    I love you. Tana. And please let Illana-Ruth know I love her, too.

    Tana Bevan - November 17, 2013 - 1:36 pm

    Thank you Star. The feelings of love and friendship go both way. Both the darlin’ and I love you to. As for Einstein, I derive comfort from the fact his passing was quick. There’s a lot to be said for that. There’s also a lot to be said for love. It’s a good thing. A REALLY good thing. *smiles*

    Sheila Bergquist - November 17, 2013 - 10:00 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear about Einstein. I know he and a wonderful life with you and that is all that counts. May he rest in peace and may you find peace too.

    Tana Bevan - November 18, 2013 - 9:23 am

    Thank you for your good wishes Sheila. Einstein’s tenure with me was indeed short. However, he was very welcomed. I take comfort in the fact he didn’t suffer.