Turns out most women cannot gracefully accept compliments, regardless of her accomplishments! The question is, Why? Why is it so difficult to accept a compliment? Even worse, why do so many women react to (retaliate?) to compliments by issuing an automatic put-down, thus diminishing the compliment’s value?
Some reasons offered are:
*A woman may want to be seen as modest and self-effacing, which can turn into a game of one-upmanship. (Apparently even in 2015 there remains a lingering belief this is “preferable” woman’s behavior.)
*Low self-esteem/self-worth (after all if you think poorly of yourself and another doesn’t, that conflicts with your existing belief system).
*The complimentor just feels sorry for her (aka is just being “nice”).
*The belief if she can do it, “anyone” can.
*Cultural and ideological beliefs (such as: believe in yourself, but keep quiet about it).
Women receive mixed messages:
~love yourself, but not too much
~be confident, but humble
~accept yourself “as is,” while the self-improvement industry earns billions of dollars annually
~go after what you want, but not too loudly and kindness first. (No stepping on anyone’s toes along the way.)
Though women are said to be 51% of the world’s population, turns out the world isn’t comfortable with women acknowledging their own worth and value. The women who do are viewed as arrogant, unfeminine, and often equated with female canines.
Some ways women respond to compliments:
*poo-poos the thing she did, as though it were “nothing”
*compliments the person who complimented her (thus getting the spotlight off herself).
Gotta wonder about wikiHow offering an 8-step outline (with pictures) on how to accept a compliment.
Amy Schumer offers an extreme (and uncensored) parody on women‘s ability to accept compliments
Here’s an idea. (View this as an experiment if that makes it easier.) The next time someone gives you a compliment, look him or her in eye and say, “Thank you.” Then remain silent for the next minute or two.
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